Having recently celebrated our 10th Anniversary together, I am surprised how much more in love I am with this man I have married. It doesn’t feel like 10 years have already passed and mind you we have been together for 4 years before we tied the knot so we actually have been together longer.
It has not always been an easy road for us. We are after all 2 individuals trying to build a life together. That is how we learn is it not, from our differences and not from our similarities. Someone to share life with who balances our personality and brings out the best in us. The yang to our yin.
One thing we need to have in mind is that we are all responsible for our own happiness not someone else. Being in a relationship, it is easy sometimes to thrust our happiness into the hands of our better half. We expect them to behave in a certain way that is pleasing to us and say yes to all our needs & wants just because we love them. We think that if they would do or say what we want them to, then only WE will be happy. Such expectation will not only create dissatisfaction in our relationships but also bring about disappointment.
Perhaps, the quote below says it best :
Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other ~ Dalai Lama
In the knowing that WE are responsible for our own happiness empowers us. Loving ourselves enough to live life in a way that creates our own joy makes us better, happier people and only then can we bring this happiness forth into our relationships. Happiness is contagious in a wonderful and sweet way. When we are happy and content, a little of that joy passes on to the people around us.
In this life, I am truly blessed to have this wonderful, kind and joyful person to share it with. During my darkest days, he brought light into my life and showed me all that I am capable of.
He is my rock, my love and my yang. He balances me perfectly.